Monday, February 15, 2016

grandma's challenge - "I Love You!" . . . How Are You Doing?

The end of last month I presented you with my "grandma's challenge", where I said I wanted to . . . "give a monthly "challenge"; something specific for us to focus on in the coming month to pass on our faith and build our relationship with our grandchildren." The first "challenge" is really a very easy one . . . "a challenge to remember to speak and show our love to others!" So, today I thought I'd take a moment to ask how is it going? How are you doing?

I thought I'd share a way to go beyond the easy, surface way of saying you love your grandchildren, although doing this is extremely important, but to encourage you to be intentional about showing your love . . . especially if your grandchildren are having a difficult time, being disobedient or just not cooperating. Yes, as wonderful as my grandchildren are - and they are extremely wonderful . . . there are times when they do not cooperate, disobey and are more challenging; I believe all of us are like this from time to time.

At any rate, when these times happen, I do not believe in yelling. I hold my grandson (they all still fit in my lap, but when they get too big for a lap, if they are having a difficult time, I would still be able to have them sit next to me and then put my arms around them) and speak softly to them. I believe physical touch in a gentle and loving way, combined with a soft and loving voice/tone is a wonderful way to get their attention and to help them calm down. I try to get them to tell me what they are thinking; why they are upset and then we talk about what they may do - the choices they can make, along with the ones they may not make - they may not be unkind, they do have to obey, etc. Then we talk about what God's Word says and pray together.

From there we talk about any consequences or if they need to apologize to someone - typically a younger brother.

I believe this is a great way to show love.

So, how are things going for you?

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