Tuesday, July 10, 2018

Give Your Grandchildren What Truly Matters

It is very important; absolutely essential, for us as grandparents to remember you can do which is vitally important for your grandchildren. What is this “absolutely essential … vitally important thing”? It is to give your grandchildren something only you are able to give - your attention.
I can not over-emphasize how important it is for us to give our attention to our grandchildren. When they want to talk to us or ask us something, we need to put down what we are doing (especially if it is using our smart phones, computers, tablets, etc) and look them in the eye while they tell us whatever it is they want to tell us.
Our grandchildren need to know we pay attention to them. They need to experience how we listen to them, because when we do, we are showing them how much we love them.
Yes, it is entirely possible the things they have to say will not be “earth-shattering”, but if it is important to them, it has to be important to us. If we do not listen to them, really pay attention and listen, they will find others who will and it is possible these “other” persons will not be people who will influence them as we want them to be influenced.
While we want our grandchildren to observe good manners and not interrupt, they also need to know we will listen to them. We value what they have to say. We want to hear the things which are important to them. We love them.
And, remember, God sets the absolutely perfect example for us of what it means to give someone you love your attention, because He promises He will always hear, listen to and answer our prayers! He wants us to talk to Him! He shows His love and one way He does this is by listening to us.
So, pay attention to your grandchildren. Listen to them. Put down your “tech” and look them in the eyes when they have something they want to tell you or ask you. Only you can give them your attention . . . and when you do, they will experience your love in ways they will remember!

1 comment:

  1. That is great advise, we should always be facing anyone we are having a conversation with, It gives the impression we are interested enough to listen. And that should also be the truth. Remember Communication is also your body and facial language, laugh at jokes, frown when things sound bad be surprised when things surprise you. All will believe you are listening because you are. How else would you know the right response. That's called having the other 1/2 of the conversation the listening 1/2.