For example, the way they feel about their life, the things happening to them, and right now in our country, the question may be complicated and you and they may or may not have a simple answer. But, if you feel like your answers are not "simple", please keep these ideas in mind for how to answer complicated questions -
- Express Gratitude. Be thankful to others. When you are asked a complicated question, thank the person for asking you the question: “This is a great question. Thanks for asking. It is important to consider ‘_______’.”
- Repeat the Question. By repeating the question and asking for clarification, you and the ones you love gain time to prepare a thoughtful answer: “When you say you’d like to know about ‘______’, would you like me to focus on ‘_____’ or ‘_____’?”
- Share an Example. When asked for an opinion on strategy, for example, tell a brief story about how you handled a similar situation.
- Offer a Bridge. Steer the conversation in a different direction with a bridging statement: “I cannot speak to X, but what I can say is Y.” Or “While X is important, it is also important to consider Y.”
- Answer Later. Respond after you have the information: “Let me do some research and get back to you,” or “I’d like to check with a few colleagues, and I will touch base with you by Friday. Does this work?”
I found these at the following link and while they may be written for answering work/business questions, the principles apply to answering any questions - simple or complicated and if you teach the children you love to do these things, you will be equipping them with important life skills for sure. Now there may be times when these "answers" are helpful, and there may be times when they are not. It is okay for you and the ones you love to simply tell someone you don't want to answer their questions, because how you and they feel absolutely does matter.
As always, keep in mind the following encouragement for you and be focused on communicating it to those you love as well - You matter. You deserve to be loved and are loved! You make our world a better place - we need you in this world. I hope you have people around you who tell you these things, but if not, please let me be someone who does.
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